Audrey Michelle - October 28, 2013 - Special Edition Lady in the Spotlight - Part Two

Occupation: Author, Spoken Word Poet, Small Business Owner

City, State, Country Currently Living In: Tampa, FL

Birthday, No Year; October 28

Birthplace; Baltimore, MD

Marital Status/Children: Divorced, one son; Gavin

Car/s: Honda Accord

Currently Working On: Too much to list

Favorite Number: 12

Favorite Quote: “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”

― Eleanor Roosevelt

Favorite Singer: Tom Petty – A poet

Favorite Song/s: Tom Petty – You Don’t Know How It Feels

The Most Beautiful Person In The World: My Son

I Want To Teach My Children: Self-worth, all else is accomplished if that is possessed.

A Really Big Evening To Me Is: Rare.  I am a full time mommy and I work 12 hours a day.  I suppose a night in which I take a few hours break and somehow find a way to relax within that time.

The One Thing I Cannot Stand Is:   Ignorance

I Knew I Was Grown Up When: I left my husband despite only barriers.  Alone, with no one in the world to depend on.

My All Time Favorite Story Is: Thus far “Game of Thrones”

My Favorite Pig Out Food Is:   Anything sweet

My Prized Possession Is:  My self-worth; I worked so hard for it.

I Am Better Than Anyone When It Comes To: Following my intuition.

If I Could Change One Thing About Myself, I Would: Not need to live so carefully in order to assure I don’t fall back into another abusive cycle.

People Who Knew Me In School Thought I Was: a loser… lol..

The Worst Time Of My Life Was/Is: When I lost my little girl, Chase Victoria.  Some say she  does not count because she died before she was born, in my seventh month of pregnancy. I suppose only I can comprehend the experience.

Behind My Back, My Friends Say: I worry… Who knows but I have learned not to care.  I am concerned with what they say to me and I evaluate the role each will play in my life through that and through instinct alone.

If I Have Learned One Thing In Life, It's: Life is an endless dance with fate, take the lead and it will not follow.

Three Words That Best Describe Me Are: Intuitive, Spiritual, Strong

Oscar:  Thank you Audrey!  Keep up the love!

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Audrey Michelle - October 28, 2013 - Special Edition Lady in the Spotlight - Part One

Oscar:  Where did your beautiful heart come from?

Audrey:  A beautiful heart is a great strength but also a curse. I can’t say where it came from but I can explain how it still exists.  I work every day to understand Psychology and human behavior. In my life I have faced cruelty so grand that there are years of my life that I have blocked out. The hardest thing in life is not to have a good heart but to maintain it. By understanding the minds and therefore actions of others, I am able to forgive and release myself of any anger or bitterness the past has instilled. The curse is not only in the fact that others seek out goodness in order to use it to serve selfish purposes but also, a good heart cannot help but to assume that all others are naturally good as well. An ideal that unfortunately is far from factual.  A good heart keeps a person naive  trusting and hopeful. That is where the strength within lies. Without those characteristics, true happiness will never be found. I now have knowledge and experience. Situations that emerge because I am a good no longer affect me the same.

I have passed my heart to my son.  He is pure goodness.  However, I have also passed on my knowledge.  He realizes that there are many that are not.  That is what I am most proud of. He possesses the greatness of a good heart, yet the knowledge he needs to protect himself so that that truth need not be a weakness in his life.

Oscar:  The creative genius alive in you that allows you to simultaneously exude powerful experience of sexuality and spirituality, what produced it?

Audrey:  I don’t know. Poetry was the only class I got a D in while in college. Obviously, I never imagined I had a gift with words. 

I began writing on my MySpace blog right after I left my abusive marriage. I wrote from a place deeper than my conscience self. It is almost as if I plagiarize. The words flow onto paper and I have no idea what I have written until the process is complete.  I am very spiritual and I believe there is nothing more spiritual that one can share than the act of making love.  I suppose that is why both are so present in my writing. 

Oscar:  How does your writing factor into your sense of life mission at present?

Audrey:  7 years ago, I lived as if I played the role of Julia Roberts in “Sleeping with the Enemy”. I am not sure how I got out as I prayed for either his death or my own. I believed that to be the only way I could ever leave. Writing was a gift given to me by something much greater than myself at that time. I was insane, I didn’t know where I was or who I was. I had no sense of time or space. My words gave me reality.  They explained to me my problems, what caused them and how to emerge and surpass the bane my experiences had created.

It took everything I am but I have recovered. I am very careful because I am prone to abuse and could easily fall back into old patterns of behavior.

I believe my present writing is to remind myself of what I fought for and to show others, who have followed my path through the years that life can be reclaimed as I am proof. 

Oscar:  What is that thing greater than yourself that you are committed to, no matter what?

Audrey:  Instinct. As I said, I am very spiritual. Something higher than myself speaks to me daily. I believe it to be destiny offering me directions. People wonder about their paths in life, and find themselves lost as I once was. I believe our journey as set by God is the easiest thing to acknowledge. It is what we know, instilled at birth and strengthened by experience.

Oscar:  What is your sense of music and spoken word poetry, where are they going?

Audrey:  I don’t know where spoken word is going, I am sad to say that I rarely find time to even record my own these days. 

As for music, lyrics are being lost.  I love music that inspires and teaches. Poetry, I suppose. I think that most of the music that is popular in today’s world is lacking a meaning deeper than entertainment.  

Oscar:  What is your sense of the why of the conflicts between adult women and men, people of different ethnic groups, people of different economic groups, just people of different social or gender preferences and religions?

Audrey:  Ignorance.  Society teaches depending on geography, background…. Stereotypes are too common.  If a group of people are taught to hate another group and given solid reasons, they will hate. Without a voice to tell them anything different they cannot be blamed for their views. 

Oscar:  Who is your current greatest living influence and why?

Audrey:  Sam Vaknin. He is a world renowned expert on Narcissism and abuse. I believe I would have eventually found my way to mental health however his articles and his book "Malignant Self - Love:  Narcissism Revisited" have greatly escalated the process. 

Oscar:  What are your recommendations for families, couples and singles with children?

Audrey:  Always be honest with your children. There are words that are appropriate and ways to tell explain things to children in words they can contemplate.  Children are often treated like second class citizens. They are born with instinct and they feel when something is wrong.  Their world is built around their immediate surroundings and if they are not informed of the facts that are affecting their lives, they will make them up. Generally, finding fault within themselves, leading them to age with guilt, shame and a lack of self-worth.

Oscar:  What is your sense of what your future holds?

Audrey:  I don’t know… My destiny does and it speaks to me daily through instinct. Little steps as to not overwhelm. As long as I remain on the path it leads me down, something remarkable.

Conclusion of Part One - Continue with Part Two

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Rosemary Ward - October Lady You Should Know

Rosemary Ward is on a mission to keep 70’s and 80’s comic book and animated super hero toys alive while having extreme amounts of fun doing it.  She says of herself that she is the total nerd and now all around her want to be one to be in her orbit.  

She is the ultimate toy collector with thousands collected to date and loves sharing personal memories of her favorite toy lines, cartoons and television shows.  Rosemary has appeared multiple times in Lady.  

She was one of 12 Pearls of Christmas for the Christmas and Special Edition in in 2011 and Santa Babe on the fourth day of Christmas 2010. 

See Rosemary's First Edition in today's Lady Archive and here.  Rosemary recently married love of her life, Tony Tuski.  Together, ther are the Ghostbusters.  Follow Rose on Facebook andRetrocons

How to Value and Respect Women - October Publisher's Editorial

The report God made the first man is a continuing discussion.  Who gave birth to the rest is not. ~Magi Aata

The key to human survival lies in humanity learning to respect and value women. Mark Twain once commented, “What, sir, would the people of the earth be without woman?”  His response to his own question was, “They would be scarce, sir, almighty scarce.”  

Women have survived physical and emotional trauma at the hands of males from the beginning of prehistory to the present.  The film project “Coming of the Red Rain” dramatizes the uncivilized behavior of males is consistent in any era.

Four prehistoric males return from a hunt carrying the animal they have killed.  It is food for their village.  The scent of a young woman distracts them.  They drop former prey for new prey.

They track the woman’s scent and surround her.  They subdue her and then fight over who will have her first.  They drag her to a cave.  Last man standing will sexually brutalize her first and others will follow in turn of their fall.  When they finish they leave her and are back to business as usual.

What is the difference between the behavior of these prehistoric males and the behavior of four contemporary males in a club on a weekend night who drug a woman’s drink and drag her to a cave called hotel.  When they finish they leave her and are back to business as usual.

Coming of the Red Rain

Women are valuable to life and not commodity for selling products or being the products of sex trafficking, slavery, pornography (Huffington Post) or any other commercially exploitive industry.  Women are valuable because there is no human life without women. The best of us and the worst of us have arrived at life though the belly womb of a woman.  There are no exceptions.

The better amongst us seek to bring joy to the women in our lives.  The smile alone of the right woman is more valuable than money.  The smile affirms life and empowers life to further development.

Men and women respect and value women when love, respect, and honor for women are normative human behaviors, the rule and not the exception.  Women deserve, as do all other humans, to live without fear of violence or exploitation.  Where women are present, life energy powers action.

Women free to live out their own faith and values inspire creativity by their presence. Women free to make sexual choices in their own interests without threat or intimidation give birth to a better world.

If you are a follower of the Lady in the Spotlight, you are committed to making the world a better place for women and all women influence.  Do this by daily committing to honor and respect women with your best gifts of love and care.  When you do, watch women give themselves to the healing of our world.

Oscar Crawford, Publisher and Editor

Sarah Charles Lum Featured October Lady in the Spotlight

Lady Sarah Charles Lum

Sarah Charles Lum is brown cream silk born in paradise.  She dreams photography and runway images.  She stays home to watch America’s Next Top Model. She is a happy married mom of four beautiful children, three princesses and a prince.   Her message to the world is, "It is time to create a better place for our future generations, teach them to love, respect, value life and put God first in everything they do.  Glimpse this Lady in the Spotlight’s world in Trinidad and Tobago.

Occupation: I work part time as a receptionist at Vemco ltd and interviewer/data entry at Hope Research Marketing Trinidad. 

Goal occupation: A Photographer

City, State, Country Currently Living in: Trinidad and Tobago. 

Birthday: May 11. 

Marital Status: Married. Children; 4...... Three girls, Mai ling 9yrs, Sue ling 7yrs and Kim ling 6yrs. And my son Ling he's 2yrs. 

Cars: BMW, Toyota, SUV and 350Z. 
Currently Working On: Photography. ... putting things in place to become professionalized in that field. 
Birth Order: I am the third child, but first girl. 
Favorite Number: 11. 
Favorite Quote: " It is better to have an ENEMY who honestly say they hate you than to have a FRIEND who's putting you down SECRETLY!! 

The Last Good Movie I Saw: Riddick. 
Last Good Book I Read: Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert T. Kiyosaki. 
Favorite Singer: I don't have a favorite singer because there are a lot of talented ones. And for favorite songs I LOVE them all . 
Favorite Actress/Actor: I will have to say Kevin Heart, Jackie Chan, Jet Li and Chris Tucker. 

The Most Beautiful Person In The World: That would be my mom. 
The Most Attractive Person In The World: Me of course after my mom!! (In a chuckling voice) I'll say Halle Berry. 
My Favorite Childhood Memories: Would be when my sisters the neighborhood kids and myself attended Sabbath school, that was truly some memorable times with miss Doreen. 

My Favorite Childhood Friend: They were my three Sisters. 
My Nickname Was/Is: Sarah Jane. 
I Want To Teach My Children: To be strong spiritually, with good morals and values, Respectful to themselves and others....as well as being independent. 
A Really Big Evening To Me Is: Is relaxing in the bath tub with soothing music, scented candles day dreaming of fashion shows and photography. 

The One Thing I Cannot Stand Is: Racism Don't understand why that's an issue in our world? We are all equal.... Color should not make a difference in our lives!! 
I Knew I Was Grown Up When: I had to take care for my younger sisters and brother when my mom went to work. 
I Stay Home To Watch: America's next top Model My All Time Favorite Story Is: Old Folk Stories My Favorite Pig Out Food Is: Burger and Fries (BK) 

My Prized Possession Is: My Family If I Could Look Like Anybody 
Besides Myself, I'd Look Like: That would definitely be Nathan Gill...... (He's so Hott) nah am just playing!! it would be myself! 
My Fantasy Is: Nathan Gill...., I like his style. 
The Worst Advice An Adult Ever Gave Me Was: Was to think that am better than my brother's and sister's because my skin color was lighter and hair had different texture. 

I Am Better Than Anyone When It Comes To: Cleaning and making others happy. 
If I Could Change One Thing About Myself, I Would: Nothing 
People Who Knew Me In School Thought I Was: Fun, Outgoing, Down to earth, Cool, Good to talk with and Super awesome. 
My Most Irrational Act Was When I: Am always in reason for my actions... 

The Best Time Of My Life Is: Motherhood 
The Worst Time Of My Life Was: Having to cope with heartache and at the time not knowing how to deal with it. 
Behind My Back, My Friends Say: That am always smiling and has a jolly spirit. 
If I Have Learned One Thing In Life, It's: To forgive and love in spite of whatever circumstances you face. 

My Most Humbling Experience Was/Is: The birth of my first child. 
Three Words That Best Describe Me Are: Caring, Hardworking and Determine 
What are your hopes for friends, family and people of the Earth for 2013? That they put God first, live in unity, love a little more and stop being so self-centered!! Success to all.

If you could share any message with the world, what would you say? Its time that we as a people create a better place for our future generation, teach them to love, respect, value life. Put God first in everything they do.... life's not easy but he being the center changes a lot in our lives.
Tell us about the symbol that best represents you and your life: I would say the Ocean!! There's always a clam and rough period!!

September 2013 Archive Edition Lady in the Spotlight

Kimber Leigh is a revered, esteemed, and honored Arizona Actress, Producer, TV Host and Director recognized for her work and contribution to Independent Film development in Phoenix. Kimber has starred in "VROOM!," "COLLAPSE," "TO SOME DEGREE," "COPPER", "LOVE A LA CARTE", and" CATHEDRAL CANYON".  Her talent has advertised Harrah's Entertainment, Lionsgate Entertainment and Arizona 's Pure Country Radio.  Learn more about Kimber here

Mar'lisa Nakwas

 

Mar'lisa Nakwas is a health care professional from the land of the richest hill on Earth. Where 49ers found gold, we find the beautiful mom with the enchanting hypnotic eyes.  Drown in the ocean of her blue eyes.  Look at your own risk.  She loves are Melissa Etheridge music and has a thing for Sam Elliot. She loves her family, seafood and the Green Bay Packers.  Friends from school said she was a wild and crazy gal.  Oscar Crawford is ecstatic to feature Mar'lisa Nakwas from Butte, Montana.  Get more Mar'lisa

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Audrey Michele is a spoken word artist, poet, and model. She is a mom and an advocate for women.  Audrey made her second appearance as the Valentine's Day Lady in the Spotlight in 2010.  Audrey will be featured in the October Edition of Lady.Click for more Audrey.

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